And it's all our fault.
Yes, it's all our fault. If you don't believe it - keep on reading and think about it. The modern world we live in is nothing but a fake - in the 'developed' countries as we call it, we have so many issues that make life a hell for many. We are not developed AT ALL. We bully, we push other people down, we are racist, we are overall arrogant, egoistic and fake. If you think like this:'Yeah but I am not that way, so why should I care?', I can only tell you that this attitude makes everything worse. Fine, it's good if you are nice, but the problem remains. It doesn't just go away because you don't want to have anything to do with it.
Society manipulates so many people today - just look at all the crap politicians promise today, and none of it ever happens or doesn't have the effect we wanted. Look at all the commercials, telling you who to be. What happened to being individual? What happened to standing up for yourself, fighting against conformity (group pressure) and arguing when you weren't happy with a decision made? I don't know.
Commercials put enormous pressure on especially young girls and women. We have to be pretty, impress on boys, be 'hot', and obviously be what I call with a good old-fashioned German word: Einheitsbrei. Everything's the same. Everyone is wearing the same clothes, enjoying the same things and doing the same things in their free time. Why? That is exactly what pushes down many depressed people: What other people think of you.
Seriously - I see it all the time. My best friends say often things like "I don't want to ask, I don't want to seem stupid. I don't want to eat, because if I do, I'll be the school's next fat girl." and it saddens me. I literally breaks my heart to see my best friends say things like that. No wonder that they're not happy with themselves - with an environment like ours! Seriously now, it is easy for me to say, I know that. I, too used to wonder how people easily could say something like that. If you had asked my 13 year old self if I was confident with myself, or why I couldn't be the person I wanted to, I would've said:'Like you're the one to talk!'. Now I sit here, stong, steady, hoping to help some other people out that are in the situation I used to be in.
Growing stronger is a long and painful process. When a very good friend of mine finally encouraged me to be who I wanted, I was very hesitant. But I want through it, and I am now very proud of it. I started dressing the way I wanted, talking the way I wanted, I spoke up to the persons that bullied me. They saw I was changing, and they stopped, very slowly though, commenting on everything I did. I was very harsh and had some strong arguments with them, and they almost made me cry but I will not try to hide that, but they respected me. And feared me. They knew I wasn't the weak person they had bullied anymore, I was someone else - the person I always wanted to be. when I was growing, I still spent many nights, crying silently and tearing my pillows apart. (No kidding, I literally ripped them into pieces)
If you are still reading this and thinking that I am just writing nonsense - fine, don't open your eyes. But you will always be confronted with it - in one way or another. Now, I want you to know something:
You are not a weak person.
You're beautiful - in every single way. Now, here are some things you should to everyday before you go to school or work.
1. Come up with at least 3 things that are good with yourself.
2. Come up with at least three things you are good at.
3. Come up with at least three reasons why people love you.
4. Come up with one thing you truly want to be like, but think individual here. Don't choose anything that someone else would like you to be like.
5. Do something about it. Change yourself, slowly but safely, into the person you want to become - a.k.a. make point 4 real.
6. Believe in yourself. Be confident. Stand up to yourself. Stand for your arguments. Trust in the people you love and in the people that love you. Forgive the people who hurt you. Forgive yourself for being weak once - be strong. I love you, and you're beautiful just the way you are.
7. There is always hope. When everything has dies, hope will always be there, as long as you reach for it. If you give up, then even hope dies, so don't ever give up. Reach on to everything you have left, even though you feel like you've lost everything.
Now, we've scratched on the next topic: Hope.
This will be a short one, I promise, because it is as simple as this: Hope is always there. No matter how bad the situation looks, even if you're close to comitting suicide, hope will always be with you, you only have to let it in. Think about it in your darkest moments, and also think about it in your lightest. It is important to keep it close.
Finally, I talk about something completely different now, but it is unbelievable enough that it is very close connected to the other two topics. Winter.
Winter is a very dark time where we have to keep our closest loves close in order to hold on. It sounds cheesy, right? Sounded way better in my head, promise on that! But! Winter was the time I came to realise who I am just a couple of years ago. Winter is something magical, winter is forgiving. Winter is the time where I am most alike myself, 100% me. I go out into the snow (which we have loads of here) and play. Today, we got our first snow here, which is very late, it usually already snows in november. So, I was walking home from the bus stop, enjoying the cold air filling my lungs and the snow that lay on the thin branches. Smiling, I brushed a bit of it off and let it slowly melt in my fingers. Only this small gesture was magical, I smiled the entire way home, repeating it a lot of times. I even smudged my face in the snow, and it was so releasing. The looks I got didn't touch me - why should I care? And it made me go back to my harder times where Winter was depressing, a burden to bear in hard times. But now it's magic to me.
Find simple thing in life that you love.
Be a little crazy sometimes and smudge your face in the snow, or dance barefoot in the pooring October's rain. And don't ever forget about that memory. Keep it, and let it brighten up your day.
I go crazy in Winter. And I love it.
With these final words, I want to once again encourage you to be the person you want to. Go crazy. Be individual - because that's why I love you. You're wonderful. Don't ever forget it - one day you will be able to look in the mirror and scream out in joy.
Lots of love,